A trauma bond is a dangerous connection between an abusive person and their victim, essentially a power and control relationship. So, can this type of relationship become healthy?

The answer is no, it is extremely unlikely.

Being the victim in a trauma bond is emotionally confusing, as the abuser unpredictably changes their patterns of behaviour.

One moment the victim will feel threatened, criticised and worthless and other times, briefly warm, from intense moments of love.

The abuser’s behaviour can make a victim feel like they are losing their mind, as they just don’t know what to believe. This is known as gaslighting.
To read my contribution, to The Daily Express, on trauma bonds, just click on the link below:


If you would like advise and help with an abusive relationship, please visit a specialist agency such as Women’s Aid: